You and I both know that this is going to be far more tragic than either of us is willing to admit. It’s like Romeo and Juliet, if Romeo was a self-concerned scaredy-cat with a severe case of philarguria, and Juliet was a closet wannabe alcoholic with an unparalleled urge to settle down.
There is an interesting crossroad faced when one half of the partnership is focused on career, and one is focused on the future of the relationship, work notwithstanding. It goes either that the relationship-focused half abandons their dreams of soon seeing her man down on one knee with a gorgeous ring, asking her to be with him forever and make dozens of children, thereby being miserable all the time, or that the career-focused half abandons a little bit more money and the easy route to a big paycheck in order to propose against his will and shack up against his will and be miserable all the time. There is no easy way to solve this problem.
It can be argued that money should make no difference when it comes to attaining and keeping a grasp on the person that you allegedly want to spend the rest of your life with. It can also be argued that a ring or a shared living space should not matter, so long as you and your significant other are together 24/7 in the spiritual sense. I choose to argue, however, that both sides of the argument are complete and utter crap, as well as completely valid, for their own reasons.
In the world in which we live today, in these the United States of fantastic America, it is important to make money and make a name for yourself, as to be able to buy expensive things such as cars, mansions, retirement funds, and motorcycles. How could one possibly be expected to make their life difficult monetarily in order to hold love? The simple answer would be,Shut the fuck up, get over it, and stop being so fucking concerned with fucking money.
Likewise, just as having a ring to solidify a lasting relationship should not make a tangible difference, neither should producing said ring. If your intention is truly to be with this person for the rest of your life, one would assume that you would choose to officially start that life as soon as possible. The only excuses not to do so come from fear and anxiety. Don’t tell me that you don’t know how to set the entire process into motion; eventually, you should want to, and when will you force being too chicken-shit to stop taking over you life? If you want to spend the rest of your life with a person, and you knowingly acknowledge such a fact, then why should she have to wait for ages for you to be perfectly ready for it?
Back on the other side of the emotional spectrum, what is the point of such a rush to settle down? Younger people should rationally choose to live their lives before they shack up with someone that they consider to be their one true love. After all, imagine all of the possible better people that you could find out there. It is better to realize before accepting a proposal than after that there is someone else who might be a better fit for you. However, what if there is no urge to find another person? What if, in spite of any advice or critique on the topic, this person has undoubtedly found the one person who makes their life seem whole? Beyond any reason or excuse, is it truly so bad to want to start the future sooner rather than later? The true question is, is said person actually expected to abandon their hopes of an engagement ring in the near future due to the fact that their partner does not feel ready, for whatever reason?
It boils down to one unanswerable question: What should be done when one half of the couple wants to settle down in the closely oncoming years, while the other half wants to take time away from home and wait a few years? If she wants him near her on a regular basis, yet it is easier for him to be far from her, who is in the right? Is anyone? Who has to change their plan, and who has to just deal with it? If you want to be with someone for the rest of your life, do 3 years really matter, or do they make all of the difference? What is the answer? Is the only resolution for Romeo and Juliet to metaphorically kill themselves until the day comes that both of their dreams fit together conveniently?
And what if that day never comes…
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